Woman calls roommate disrespectful for not wearing a bra around her boyfriend

In 2024, women will become tired of conforming to men’s standards and will adjust the way they dress and behave in certain situations so as not to distract men.

No one has the right to dictate what a woman should wear, especially in the comfort of her own home. But what happens when the other woman disagrees?

That’s what happened to a woman on Reddit who said her roommate was unhappy with her for not wearing a bra when her boyfriend was around.

A roommate took to Reddit and asked if she was right for refusing to wear a bra in her own apartment.

IN post AITAThe 21-year-old explained that she and her 22-year-old roommate have always been close and have been living together for about four years. Six months ago, her roommate started dating one of their mutual friends, whom she called Mike, although she and Mike broke up after he and the roommate started dating.

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The young woman said Mike essentially moved in after he and her roommate began their relationship, but he doesn’t pay rent or clean up after himself, which she says is “very disrespectful.”

“I always dressed very casually in my apartment,” she explained. “No bras, little tops, shorts, etc. because I like the freedom of wearing next to nothing. I stopped wearing little shorts when he came around and everything is fine. But I refuse to wear a bra at home and rarely wear one even in public (I’m lucky with an A cup).”

A woman was taken aback after her roommate asked if she could start wearing a bra when her boyfriend left. “He’s here ALL THE TIME,” the woman wrote. “So I’ll have to wear it all day and into the evening. No. I refused.

A roommate called a woman disrespectful for refusing to “respect her boundaries,” claiming that women dress incorrectly in front of other people’s boyfriends. What seems even more inappropriate, however, is the roommate’s attempt to control how her friend should dress in their home.

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The woman stood her ground and claimed that she could wear whatever she wanted in her home.

As an independent young woman paying rent for her own apartment, it seems unfair that she has to sacrifice her comfort for her roommate’s free boyfriend, especially since he doesn’t seem to respect her space.

Reddit users agreed that she had every right to refuse such an unreasonable request and perhaps even report his unofficial occupancy to her landlord.

“She brings a man into your shared personal space. Just because you both pay rent doesn’t mean it’s a public place,” someone commented on the post.

“She didn’t even ask if he could live there, but she’s going to say you’re not respecting her boundaries by trying to enforce a dress code in your house? She’s out of touch and out of line.”

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The woman tried to disguise her unreasonable request for a dress code as a border, but it failed.

It’s understandable why a roommate might feel uncomfortable about a friend’s clothing choice around her boyfriend, but it’s not her place to make such a demand and then call it a “boundary.”

The only one boundaries that seem to be crossed in this situation belong to the woman.

“It’s not a stretch for her to demand you dress a certain way,” someone commented. “And if she wants to talk about disrespect, she needs to talk about how disrespectful her boyfriend is around the apartment.”

Reddit users noted that if the roommate really has problems with her friend’s freedom in the apartment they share, then she might want to consider moving in with her boyfriend.

When it comes to boundaries, experts agree it’s important distinguish between limiting and controlling behavior. In this case, the boundary would be the roommate who decides to wear a bra with men because it makes her feel more comfortable. Controlling behavior could be a roommate telling a Reddit woman that she should dress differently to make her feel more comfortable.

This is an important distinction.

Women should hold their boyfriends accountable for self-control, not put other women down.

Despite the obvious reasons why this roommate’s request to her friend was excessive and inconsiderate, it also highlighted the ongoing but outdated expectations that society continues to place on women – dictating how a woman dresses in order to control a man’s temptations.

The truth is that it is unfair for a woman to prioritize another man’s comfort over her own. If women are concerned that their boyfriends may be distracted by other women’s clothing, they should hold their boyfriends accountable and encourage self-controlrather than blaming women for being able to wear whatever they want.

As social styles and standards evolve, many women chose a braless lifestyle for the sake of comfort and acceptance at home and in public. In today’s generation, women are hoping to reduce the stigma and sexualization around their breasts, and the best way to do this is to desensitize them.

In the same way men fought for the right to show their nipples In the 1930s, women go their own way to ensure the freedom to demonstrate their freedom, but this becomes difficult when other women continue subject oneself to internalized misogyny.

Self-control is a skill that anyone can achieve. If men are allowed to show off their bare chest whenever they please, a woman can justifiably refuse to wear a bra without being scolded or attacked, especially in her own home.

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Francesca Duarte is YourTango’s news and entertainment correspondent based in Orlando, Florida. She covers themes of lifestyle, human interests, adventure and spirituality.