Former Primus drummer Tim Alexander explains his quick departure

Earlier this week, we reported How PrimusLongtime drummer Tim “Herb” Alexander left the band rather abruptly, just after a long tour and with some pretty big plans for the future. In a statement from the band released on October 29, they said Alexander did the most mature shit ever by quitting via email and shocked the members by declaring that he had “lost his passion for the game.” Now Alexander has published a detailed explanation of what prompted his sudden decision in a letter he wrote Rolling Stone.

Here is his full statement:

“I know there are many questions about why I left Primus, and I think it’s important to share my story, both for myself and for our fans. Leaving Primus was one of the hardest decisions of my life, but ultimately it came down to loving myself, my family, and the life I want to create moving forward. I chose the path of love.

“As for what I told the group about ‘losing my passion for the game,’ that’s what I said. But I also said, “All this touring has left me feeling empty. My body hurts all the time.” This context is important. I also told them that they deserve someone who wants to be there. And I meant it. As far as “abruptly” goes, I believe there is never a perfect time to leave something you’ve been a part of for so long. Groups have their own internal workings and represent relationships. Sometimes it doesn’t seem balanced, and sometimes it doesn’t work out.

“Over the past months, I have been in a place of deep healing and intensive mental health rehabilitation, learning to confront the struggles I have carried for years. During this period of loneliness, I began to see with new clarity the things that no longer served me, the people and situations that did not support my well-being, and the parts of my life that I needed to let go of in order to find peace and stability.

“When I first joined Primus I was 24 years old. I’m almost 60 now, and I’m not only a drummer, but also a husband and dad. Being a drummer for almost four decades took a toll on my body. As I said earlier, my body hurts. My arms hurt. My back hurts. I had open heart surgery ten years ago and am still dealing with the aftereffects.

“For so many years of my life I slept, breathed and lived music, giving it everything I had – and often at the expense of my physical and mental health. Drumming is a stressful profession and when combined with touring and performing, it can be exhausting on all levels. But I love drumming and will always do it. Just like I will always love and appreciate our fans, the music we made, the places we visited, and everything I learned along the way.

“When we were growing up as young musicians, it was a different world than it is today. There was no attention to how this life affected us – it just wasn’t talked about – and I think we’ve lost a lot of great musicians over the years because of it. I no longer feel the need to hide the fact that I have been miserable and in a dark emotional state for the past year. During the tour, I desperately missed my family and felt very lonely.

“My decision to leave the group was driven by a deep need to prioritize my mental and physical health. I want to give my family the presence and energy they deserve and take care of myself in a way that allows me to thrive.

“I view this next chapter as a positive new beginning that can hopefully inspire others to speak and live their own truth, even when it is difficult. I wish the group continued success; And to the fans who supported me, I want to thank you for your compassion and kind words. Your support has been a source of strength for me and as I close this chapter, I look forward to exploring a new path forward based on love, respect and health.”

Despite the fallen soldier, Primus will continue their upcoming performances as planned. They say their New Year’s show will feature members of the Frog Brigade and Holy Mackerel, filling in where needed. The band’s drummer Danny Carey will be replacing Tool’s Live in the Sand festival for their 2025 tour, and they’ll be looking for “the greatest drummer on earth” during their 2025 tour.

For reference, here is Primus’s full October 29 statement on the matter:

“On Thursday, October 17th, we received an email from Tim “Herb” Alexander stating that he would no longer be associated with Primus as of effect. It came as a complete shock to all of us at Camp Primus.

“With a great spring and summer of touring ahead and some exciting plans for the future, we are a little baffled that Herb has pulled out so suddenly. After several attempts to contact Herb, his only response was another email stating that he had “lost his passion for the game.” As disappointing as it is, we respect his choice and it has forced us to make some difficult decisions.

“We considered canceling the annual New Year’s show, but after much discussion Les and Lehr decided to go with an extended version of Primus, which features members of Holy Mackerel and the Frog Brigade. This will be an exciting special, one-time event.

“As for the future of Primus, the band is looking forward to playing in the Dominican Republic with Tool and others. Danny Carey once again kindly offered to take over as drummer. For “Sessanta”, Primus plans to find “the greatest drummer on earth.” Details further…

“Thank you for all your support and understanding.”

Sometimes you really just have to do what you have to do for yourself. Take care, Herb. Seriously.