Teddi Mellencamp filed for divorce from husband Edwin Arroyave one day before announcing their separation

Mellencamp requested primary legal and physical custody of the couple’s three children – Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 4 – with visitation from Arroyave.

Teddi Mellencamp makes her split with Edwin Arroyave official.

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills According to court documents obtained by PEOPLE, the alum filed for divorce after 13 years of marriage on November 1, citing irreconcilable differences as the reason for their separation.

Although divorce papers were filed on November 1, just a day before she publicly announced the news on social media, Mellencamp, 43, set the date of their separation as October 20.

The reality TV star and mother of three asked for spousal support, but demanded that the court be stripped of its ability to award alimony to 47-year-old Arroyave. She also asked for primary legal and physical custody of their three children, Slate, 12, and Cruz. , 10 years, and Dove, 4 years, with “reasonable and frequent” visits from Arroyave and that he will be responsible for all attorney’s fees and costs.

According to the documents, the former couple’s assets and debts are “unknown at this time” and will be determined at a later date.

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November 2, Mellencamp. announced that she and Arroyave are breaking up V Instagram post and emphasized the importance of their children leading the transition.

“After much thought and consideration, I have made the difficult decision to file for divorce,” the reality star wrote in her statement. “My priority is my children and ensuring their privacy and well-being are taken into account as best they can throughout this new chapter.”

“I didn’t want to make a public statement,” she continued. “But in an attempt to protect my family from unfounded speculation and rumors, I felt that being open, honest and vulnerable was the best way forward.”

November 3, Arroyave shared a mysterious post about how he’s doing on his own Instagram. One screenshot of the app detailing his sleep schedule showed he slept for nine hours and 10 minutes with an “optimal” sleep rating.

“I recently talked about getting 3 hours of sleep a night,” he wrote in the caption. “Finally, I got some rest!”

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He later shared another photo, this time of himself in a hot yoga studio.

“You won’t always be motivated or inspired. This is where rituals and habits come in,” he wrote.

Eds The podcast host continued, “Having good habits will help you get through the dark days. It is when you are under pressure that your true character is revealed.”

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Formerly Mellencamp, the singer’s daughter John Mellencamptalked about how Arroyave didn’t believe in marriage when they first met.

“He came home and he had tears in his eyes, and I had never seen him cry before,” Mellencamp told Yahoo Lifestyle in a 2019 interview. “And he just put a blank check on the nightstand and he was like, ‘Hey, I just wanted to tell you that I love you and I went out to buy a ring today.’ I’m sorry. I just don’t believe in marriage and I don’t want you to break up with me.” “

“I felt like the life had just been sucked out of me,” she recalled.

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The founder and CEO of Skyline Security quickly changed his mind and asked Mellencamp to marry him the next day, Christmas Eve.

“Your mind plays tricks on you, and in the end I realized that this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with,” Arroyave explained in the same Yahoo interview.