Dear Abby: My partner only wants intimacy when a third person is involved.

Dear Abby: I have an open relationship with my partner. We both enjoy interacting with other people, but only if we agree with that person. Everything was going great; I still have one-on-one time with my partner. But now it seems that instead of making love only to me, he only wants to touch me when someone else comes over. What is the best way to approach him about this? Should I suggest that we stop inviting people to such entertainment?

—Adventurous lady

Dear Lady, It sounds like your partner has lost interest in one-on-one intimacy. If this is the case, you need him to confess so you can adjust your life accordingly. Healthy relationships, open or closed, involve honest communication. If you’re unhappy with the way your relationship is going, you have every right to say so.

Dear Abby: I am 58 years old and a recovering drug addict. I have been using drugs and alcohol for over 30 years and now, thank God, I am 20 months clean. Throughout my addiction, I had a friend who was my strong support. I always considered him a friend because he was there when I was actively involved.

Now that I’m clean, he wants to move on and move from friends to a relationship. Yes, I care about him, but he wants to get married without first getting to know the real me. He is hardworking, does not drink or smoke. He just works and comes home. He is exactly the person I was looking for. Please advise me what should I do.

— Clean and Sober in Florida

Dear Clean and Sober: Your statement that this man wants to get married without first getting to know the real (I assume you mean sober) you tells me a lot. This tells me that you are making mature judgments, for which I congratulate you. He may be exactly the type of person you want, but hold off on marriage until you’re sure he knows and can accept your new sober you.