7 nice things that men do only when they love a woman for who she really is | Orna and Matthew Walters

If you’ve ever had a guy who gets strong, sends you flowers, texts you constantly, and then disappears into the man’s Bermuda Triangle, you may wonder if he likes you. But perhaps you want an answer to an even more important question: does he like you for who you are as a person?

With men who like you for something other than your true self, you will curl into a pretzel trying to please him. But it is impossible to maintain a different form all your life – trying is tiring.

Here are seven nice things men do only when they love a woman for who she really is:

1. He makes an effort

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He regularly contacts you to set up a date. He writes and calls to find out how you are doing. and is genuinely interested in what you like and don’t like.

He keeps his word. If he says he will call, he calls. He doesn’t cancel your dates at the last minute under flimsy excuses. He gives you his full attention when you are together.

He is even willing to go out of his way to see you. He doesn’t complain that he has to drive an hour to meet you in your part of town. He might even schedule and pay for an Uber ride so you can see him if you don’t live near the place he’d like to take you.

A guy who sends you mixed signals or is distracted by his phone while you’re hanging out with him isn’t serious about you. Take this as a red flag. One YouGov poll even states that 70% of women find a man talking on the phone on a date to be a turn-off.

Don’t make any effort to see this type of guy (even if he’s hot, hot, hot) because as soon as you stop making things comfortable for them, they’ll disappear. Instead, focus on finding a guy who pays attention to what’s important to you and who makes sure your time with him is meaningful and fun.

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2. He wants exclusivity, but will go at your pace.

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The guy who likes you wants to claim you. He wants to get you off the market as quickly as possible. He is willing to let you set the pace of the relationship and is willing to wait until you are ready instead of trying to rush you into a relationship.

A man ready for a relationship will go looking for his woman. When he finds her, he doesn’t want to waste any time. He’ll want to cut out the distractions of dating other women and focus solely on you.

If he likes and respects you, he won’t turn away just because you want to take it slow. He will wait until you are ready to commit yourself to him.

A guy who doesn’t want to wait for you is not right for you. Don’t waste your time on impatient men.

3. He includes you in his life.

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Relationships don’t happen in a vacuum. So, a man who invites you to meet his friends and to family gatherings is taking you seriously. He talks about his work and his interests so you can get to know him better.

Having a secret affair with a man who wants you all to himself may seem romantic or exciting, but the truth is that he is probably hiding something from you. A guy who likes you will openly talk about his life and make you a part of it.

He is also interested in your life and wants to meet your friends and family. He’s thinking about the broader community you create as a couple. He’ll want to study how your two lives fit together to see if you are a long term fit.

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4. He’s trying to impress you.

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The guy who likes you wants you to respect him and view it as an asset in your life. He wants to feel like he can be your hero and solve your problems. Therefore, he will do everything possible to impress you.

He wants you to think that he is special in some way. Like many animals in a mating dance, he puffs up his feathers and shows off to you.

He may try to impress you with his earning power, intelligence, charm, or expensive toys (such as watches, boats, or a fancy car). Whether he’s talking nonstop about how important his job is or making sure you see his sports car parked right in front of the restaurant, he wants to show you that he can do what you want. However, he may not think about figuring out exactly how to impress you.

Don’t discount a guy who talks about himself too much or shows off his fancy toys. He wants you to feel desirable. Tell him how to impress you and see if he can adapt.

5. He makes plans with you in advance.

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Whether he wants to buy you tickets to a concert in a few weeks or is interested in your vacation plans, a guy who likes you will plan future dates with you. Some guys like to keep things casualsending last minute messages to get together and being left in the dark about the future. These guys may find you attractive and interesting, but they are not ready to commit or truly pursue a relationship with you.

You can easily spot the difference between these two types of men with some effort and nothing more. Let any guy lead and you’ll learn his intentions along with you. If he pursues you, asks you out in advance, and plans a date for the future, he likes you.

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6. He wants to make you happy

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Of all the signs that he likes you, this one is probably the easiest to spot. When a man likes you and wants a relationship with you, he will want to make you happy. He will look for ways to bring more joy into your life and relieve stress.

He’s interested in knowing what you enjoy most, whether it’s your favorite hobby, food, dessert, or vacation spot. Don’t ignore his curious questions or answer with a vague “I don’t know.” Battling your eyelashes here may physically move the relationship forward, but it may not get you the long-term relationship you’re looking for.

If he asks about you, answer him, and the more specific you are, the better. Never miss share your true self because a man who likes you will want to add joy to you and make you happy in every possible way. The best way to find love is to be yourself Research from 2013 confirms this.

7. He doesn’t ask you to change clothes.

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A man who likes you won’t ask or expect you to change. He loves your little quirks that make you unique and special. He shares with you those little things about you that bring a smile to his face.

It may seem clear what if he compliments youHe likes you, but many women don’t pay attention to this obvious sign. A man who likes you will even like what other guys complained about.

One guy said you’re too pushy? Your man loves your passion. Did someone find you a little strange? Your man loves your quirkiness.

A man who likes you likes you because you’re different. He loves you for who you really are and will never ask you to change.

A guy who asks or wants you to change, be it in your appearance or behavior, doesn’t like you. He’s trying to make you into what he likes. Stop trying to understand the mysteries of male behavior and instead focus on the obvious signs that he likes you, and you’ll never have to wonder what his intentions are.

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Orna and Matthew Walters meet with coaches and founders Creating love with purpose with a holistic approach to transforming hidden blocks of love, and the authors Do it right this time.