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7 signs of a truly calm person, according to psychology

7 signs of a truly calm person, according to psychology

Most people complicate their lives by chasing things that don’t bring them the joy they want. I know this because I have been a victim of the nonsense that society puts on us. People are incredibly easily influenced by what others consider important because we value the words of those we consider high-status. But I’ve learned that most truly calm people who seem to have it all are not necessarily satisfied – instead they exhibit other rare symptoms.

Here are 7 signs of a truly calm person:

1. They take on responsibilities that no one else will.

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Life is a game and you won when you were born. Everything else is just a game, so act accordingly. While the scruffy masses roam the Earth just trying to survive another day, you are here to take on crazy commitments that shake your soul. Go big. Stop being whiny. Aim high and fall according to the energy that this courage gives you.

Study published by Central European University suggests that making commitments that others do not, often called “going the extra mile” or taking a “brave stand,” can lead to positive outcomes such as increased personal growth, perceptions of leadership, and a stronger sense of purpose. However, it is critical to consider the potential downsides of isolation and potential backlash depending on the context and commitments made. Research often focuses on the psychological factors that influence such decisions, including personal values, self-efficacy, and desire for impact.

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2. They appreciate simple things.

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It’s easy to believe that what seems difficult to achieve is of greater value than what we ignore on our “way up.” But when we reach the top we realize that all we wanted was joy from simple things. Why start later when you can enjoy a simple life right now?

2012 study found that appreciating life’s small pleasures can contribute to greater happiness than other factors. To enjoy the simple things in life, you can focus on the things that bring pleasure, care, and support in your life rather than the things that irritate, upset, or hurt. You can also practice gratitude for everyday things that are easy to take for granted.

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3. They get paid to do what they like.

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Studying to be a doctor because your parents want you to is a terrible life strategy. This is much better get paid for what you love most. It is an illusion that this is a failed strategy.

The Internet has allowed us to monetize almost everything. You can get paid for what you write. You can get paid to make films about insects. You need a mindset, not a search for the “right job.”

Book by Brooke Erin Duffy Don’t get paid for what you love: gender, social networks and desirable jobs asks readers to consider the likelihood of not getting paid for doing what they love, and how to reconcile the ambitions of artists with their willingness to work for the public good.

4. They break some rules

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It’s difficult to succeed when everyone is playing on the same field. And yet the “rules” are followed because people are afraid of being seen as outsiders.

Follow your instinct, be a freak and do things your way (without breaking the law, dude). This starts with understanding the rules and the status quo. Now you have a signal indicating the path: another way.

MIT Sloan Management Study found that nonconformity is a characteristic of creative achievement and can lead to benefits such as attention, sincerity, and innovative thinking.

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5. They see problems as opportunities.

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This mindset will likely change your life more than anything else. Most people spend their entire lives walk on eggshellsI’m worried and afraid.

They are stunted and wonder why they haven’t found happiness yet. The living among us have come to terms with our mistakes. Thanks to this, we are not so afraid. And when we are not so afraid, everything becomes an open door.

Study published by the Journal of Positive Psychology Problem perception focuses on how people interpret and evaluate situations as problematic, which is influenced by factors such as personal experience, cognitive biases, social context, and emotional state, resulting in differences in how people perceive the severity and potential solutions problems they face. Key findings include: people tend to overestimate the severity of problems based on their past experiences, social comparisons can influence how someone views an issue, and framing an issue in a positive or negative light can significantly change perceptions.

6. They fall in love with things that bore others.

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Want a secret? Find a way to enjoy the things that are important but that most people turn their nose up at. I haven’t grown a large audience constant search for novelty. I did what mattered over and over again.

But I found a way to love sitting at my desk and immersing myself in new, written worlds. Find things that many avoid and become intimate with them. Let these things fall in love with your presence.

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7. They make room for the quiet voice.

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Most of us submit to our critical voices as if they had just barged in and were holding a shovel. We have so much to protect, so we listen to the voice that seems to have all the answers to save us.

But this voice is a false prophet. He only knows how to protect that part of you that was never real in the first place. You are more than that. You are free, creative and wild. A quiet voice has your back if you’re willing to listen.

Studies mentioned in Brain and Behavior Research Foundation article shows that time spent relaxing can significantly improve productivity by reducing stress, increasing focus, enhancing creativity and improving overall mental well-being, leading to increased productivity in work and personal life. Research shows that taking regular rest breaks can lead to increased productivity and improved decision-making ability when returning to tasks.

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Alex Mathers is an author and coach who helps you build a profitable personal brand using your knowledge and skills while maintaining mental toughness.