Dear Annie! Cutting ties with my older sister was the best decision I ever made.

Dear Annie: I read your column and the letter from Disengaged about her sister and I can relate. Several years ago, I decided to completely cut ties with my older sister after years of watching her harm herself with drugs and alcohol and hurt her children and our parents. My parents and I took care of her children when she was on the streets and she verbally and physically abused my mother. She drained my parents’ savings and her behavior contributed to my father’s death. Even after his death, she continued to exploit my mother until her last days.

I still attend family gatherings even when my sister is present, but I just ignore her. I recently asked her not to invite me to my birthday party, which caused a rift. Even her daughter, who was abused as a child, said she wouldn’t come unless her mother was invited. So, I canceled the party and instead had a nice, quiet dinner with my kids.

Giving up on my sister brought me peace, and I will not change my decision. Sometimes walking away from family drama is the best solution for your well-being. — Happier without drama

Dear lucky guy: Thanks for sharing your point of view. The beauty of this topic is that there really is no right answer for all people. There is only the right answer for yourself.

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